My Memory Tree and the Memories We've Created
Eve FretwellAs a parent of an ASD child I’m sure you will sympathise with me and agree how hard it is most days not to become a quivering wreck in the corner! Especially before the diagnosis when you don’t really understand why your child is acting so differently to other children. My husband, daughter and I have been beaten, kicked, bitten and verbally abused for years. Our son has now been diagnosed with ASD, ADHD, sensory processing difficulties and behavioural problems; this took a whole agonising 6 years!! I won’t deny or lie to you that my best friend became a bottle of Pinot Grigio after our battles trying to get our son to bed.
Every morning I would wake up dreading the thought of getting out of bed, not knowing if I was about to meet Dr Jekyl or Mr Hyde. I must admit that we would get a little warning when a meltdown was on its way, he would become edgy and move around a lot and most of the time we had no clue of what was causing our son to feel so agitated.
We decided to keep a day to day account regarding our son’s behaviour, we were desperately trying to find his trigger points so we could avoid certain situations to make our son a happier child. My husband wondered if there was anything online which could help us keep this diary as we both work and take turns in looking after our son, it would be much easier if all our information was in one place. My husband searched and searched but there wasn’t anything on the internet which would be completely private, I didn’t want some stranger being able to read about our son’s private life, or see any of our family photos etc.
My husband designed My Memory Tree, a completely secure and private website where you can create photo albums diaries & scrapbooks, (the scrapbooks are versatile and can be turned into life/story/memory books. My husband being a foodie has created a Family cook book, & we created a scrapbook for each of our children's school art/achievements it really is down to the user’s imagination and needs) The best thing is that we are in complete control with whom we want to share our private stuff with. This has made it so much easier to write in the same diary which we have called ‘Trigger Points’ and to have all our memories organised in one place.It has also given our daughter a private place to express herself.
Since using the website ourselves we have found many trigger points such as our son could handle loud noises but did not like loud noises in crowds and the smell of strawberries and nail vanish made him meltdown instantly. He does not like being asked the same question twice, and he is to avoid consuming banana flavoured milkshake and certain sweets.
ASD children find it hard to tell you what the matter is with words, we have found that pictures work really well, this website allows my son to upload pictures and design his own story books and print them off from home; most of his stories are about his day and we enjoy reading them back to our son at bedtime, which makes the whole bedtime routine more enjoyable and provides some fun family time. He also has a fascination with wildlife, and has created his own wildlife scrapbook which he is particularly proud of. I am currently using the website to write about our experiences and our personal journey.
Having an online diary means that I have access on my device all the time and I am able to add an entry whenever I need, so if my son is finding something difficult or having a melt down I don't have to remember all the details,I can do it there and then. I have also found that while we are adding to the diary in these situations It creates a small "time out" for both of us and this benefits us both. Having all your information on hand is also helpful when having hospital/community visits.
My Memory Tree's mission is to create a friendly environment that everybody can use to capture their precious moments, but to have the ability to be a helpful tool to those with specific requirements.
ABOUT MY MEMORY TREE
My Memory Tree is a private and secure online album, diary, and scrapbook sharing platform.
A unique sharing network where not one bit of your private information or photographs can be found by the general public by searching the internet, giving you that peace of mind and added security. Our Scrapbooks allow you to create any kind of photo book you can imagine, adding content along the way. and displaying them in a sleek and elegant style.
You can organise your Albums/Diaries/Scrapbooks just how you want them.
It allows you to effortlessly upload and organise your photographs, to add titles and detailed information about that special occasion, moment or event. It also helps you to organise your albums into tailored diaries that can be shared with only those you wish to share them with.
The diaries have been carefully designed to provide you with a variety of tailored uses from personal, fitness and food diaries to hobbies, new baby, & family diaries. Our Scrapbooks are versatile and can be used as life, memory and introductory books, the options are endless.
Our diaries have also been designed so that they can help with identifying trigger points with autism, panic and anxiety, and other mental health issues. Our Scrapbooks can be used as memory books for assisting Alzheimer & dementia sufferers.
Our print option allows you to print at home, or use our affiliate print shop for that professional finish and option to create gifts for your loved ones to treasure.
My Memory Tree gives you that freedom to either share those magical captured moments with those closest to you or to simply keep them all locked away for your own private use. If you do choose to share, people will only see the album, diary or scrapbook you have selected for them to view. Giving you complete control and peace of mind.
My Memory Tree provides you with a more intimate and personal experience.